When I was a kid, my mother would tell me that positive thinking brings about positive things. And, if you told yourself you couldn't do it, then you would inherently set yourself up to have things not work in your favor.
Well, twenty some odd years later that still makes me smile. At the same time, I've found it strangely applicable in my life. If I thought in a positive manner about something and worked towards it, then somehow, things would play out in a positive way. Granted, things like circumstan... read more »
Just this week, Marisol and I were having some dinner when we spent some time talking about one of her colleagues, Shelly (who I've been out with before), and some of her recent dating experiences. This opened up the floodgates for Marisol and I to discuss the deal breakers. You know -- what you will not give on when dating someone. Later that night and since then, I've found myself thinking about that very thing. What are my "deal breakers" when dating someone? Truth is, I think it's a good thing to ... read more »
A few nights ago, I was walking home from a long day out and out when I bumped into someone that made me do a double take -- Lionel. As a bit of context, I met him and we went out on a mostly rockin' date. Then things turned.... Eh, not so great. Despite it, I still liked him, and I'd always imagined what could happen if we got over the little hurdle of an icky first date. Anyway, later that night, I found myself thinking about the "What Ifs" and wondering how the order of the men in my life have impac... read more »
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So, for the longest time, I've had a hang up about dating men younger than I am. Sounds stereotypical and cliche, but truth is, I prefer my men with a bit of life experience, a little established, and with some type of focus or ambition. And, if past precedence is anything to go by, men my age (mid/late 20s) and younger don't seem to have these things quite as developed -- or aren't focused in quite the same way. At least my odds are better when a man is a touch older than I am. Theoretically speaking, o... read more »
Its been a long time, but I do remember what it feels like to be single. I remember being overly concerned with my appearance at all times. I remember being on the lookout for attractive girls without rocks on their fingers. I remember what it felt like to be hit on. At least, I thought I [...] read more »
"...I am so perfect so divine so ethereal so surreal I cannot be comprehended except by my permission..." - Nikki Giovanni, "Ego Tripping"
While my tastes in men have evolved since I started dating, one thing that has pretty much been consistent has been my preferences for men with a little bit of swagger. Simply put, I prefer men with an air of confidence and maybe, even just a touch of arrogance. Not dripping and overpowering, mind you. Just enough so that (1) he always projects a sense of strength t... read more »
In all my time dating in the ever booming Chicago social scene (half kidding here, folks), I can say that I've rarely had run-ins with any old flames. With the exception of maybe Charles (see here, here, here and here for reference) who happened to live in my neighborhood and work within close proximity of me, I've been lucky to dodge most of the men that have come and gone in my life.
Well, most of them.
See, I'm not one to be too superstitious. However, truth be told, I don't believe in simple coi... read more »
In the world of dating, when one door closes, another one often opens rather quickly. Now, usually, that's a good thing.
Operative term there is "usually." And, while we know the logical thing to do when it comes to our dating lives (i.e. when to say yes or no, what people we should let into our lives or when we should stay away from someone with baggage), we as people ultimately like to get at least a little close to the fire -- for the thrill if nothing else.
Granted, I think this skews heavily f... read more »
...Is not gold.
That's the moral of this story. Let me put that out there now.
The story itself is actually pretty darn simple: Jackson, who seemed to be emerging as a nice lookin' prospect in my life is no longer.
I know, I know. That was QUICK.
And I agree. It was. After seeing him again earlier this week and having a nice, fun, and intimate night... I learn just today that a girl with whom he thought things were over has suddenly decided she wanted to work it out.
And he decided that he did ... read more »