TweetGeez I had a knock on the door last week. Hard knockI opened the door and there stood a sheriff, holding a clip board and papers. He said..are youSpicybugz. I said, yes sir I am..whats the problem? He then handed me papers, and said you have been served. I saidserved what? He said you are [...] read more »
Is it possible to start another family after having a family? I know my exBoss he has a family, his children all adult now. I am not sure if hes divorce with his wife but I know that he has starts another family with another woman. His son knows of this matter and not angry [...] read more »
TweetHappy Easter to all my christian friends. Well, today I stood up for myself. My ex has not seen the kids in 3 months. Yep, thats right, not since the end of Dec. This is the guy who made me fight tooth and nail to get my kids back in this divorcewho in the end [...] read more »
TweetIm still here! Life still keeping me over the top busy. Kids are off school all next week for Spring Break. Next week is going to be long! Just saying. Can you believe Mini and Mighty Bugs are now 7 and 5! Wowthose years just flew by didnt they. I can remember blogging when they [...] read more »
TweetWell, its 1:45 am. I am awake! I did fall asleep, but woke up from a nightmare from the past. What the hell. I dont know why that kind of dream would rear its ugly head again. It shook me up and has left me feeling strange. I am over all of that.why did it [...] read more »
All this time, I've known that my daughter blamed me for the divorce. She's been conflicted because she loves me sees that I'm the one taking care of her but she also finds herself angry at no longer having her parents together. This, of course, is compounded by her father choosing to not be very involved of late, bringing up her abandonment issues from her time in foster care.The thing that I was never able to understand was the fact that she kept telling me that I could be married to Dad again, if I w... read more »
Maybe things aren't going as well as I had thought.I don't know what happened, really. The kids have been doing wonderfully. They love their schools this year and had seemed to be more settled. They've been really excited about me graduating and we've been discussing the possibilities that the future may hold.Then, 20 minutes ago, I was awakened by the doorbell. I had fallen asleep with the baby, as I am perpetually exhausted and, while I slept, my 9 year old had packed some things and ran away from home... read more »
This evening, my daughter asked how long she was in foster care, which opened a discussion that resulted in a basic overview of her foster care timeline. When I was explaining her failed reunion with her mother, I said something like "she wasn't being able to take care of you like you needed to be taken care of..." and she cut me off with a matter-of-fact"like Daddy's not taking care of us now?"Wow. Ouch. read more »
So? You read the title. What do you do when your child wants to call dad's girlfriend mom? Do you break down in tears and think you are less of a mom? Do you tell your children that they only have one mom and that they no longer can call her mom? Do you scream and yell and fuss at your ex because you are angry this is happening? I personally have been in this situation before, and it is absolutely heartbreaking. I did all of the above.If this happens to you, please don't let it eat at your mind. You are ... read more »
I cannot begin to count how many times in a week I hear the phrase "I don't know how you do it!". Occasionally, I hear "you make it look so easy". The last one usually comes on days that I have on makeup to cover the dark circles under my eyes. I suspect it is also related to the fact that I don't seem to get too worked up about most things. Make no mistake, though, this is more a result of my utter complete exhaustion than it is indicative of a calm, even temperament.The truth is though, it's all an ac... read more »
