Oftentimes, when we like someone, we're quick to see all the good -- and many times, sweep any of the little "negatives" (which should be flags) under the rug. Instead, we'll indulge in the nice things like their looks or physical chemistry but brush aside the flags, such as the way they don't call when they say they will, seem to mooch off others or vanish and reappear in our lives... I mean, it's like throwing darts at a target and missing the bulls eye: MISS: A guy who has mommy issues... MISS: A guy... read more »
Admittedly, when you start dating someone, you can only hope that the two of you don't run into any obstacles that would get in the way of getting closer to each other. Things like an intense ex or a pushy best friend can really end up being troublesome in a blooming relationship. But, what do you do if it's something else -- like a child? It's actually one of the very issues that got in the way of me and my ex, Charles. And, it seems like the very issue Marisol is tackling with more than one of the men... read more »
We all have ways of dealing with our emotions. Some make jokes when they're nervous, some people get quiet when they're angry and others blush when they're embarrassed. But, when you're into someone, what do you do? Do you wear your heart on your sleeve? Or do you clam up and hide behind the rules you're "supposed" to follow in dating so as not to appear weak? Well, honestly, I'd say that I'm the queen of the latter -- keep a little distance and follow a lot of "rules"-- mostly of my own creation. Se... read more »
Just this evening, I came across one story about a woman who gave up her search for love this year, after her one-year aggressive online campaign failed. Apparently, through this very thorough site, she posted weekly videos, kept a daily blog, and even maintained weekly goals, not to mention connected with supporters through various social media channels. In turn, the site garnered press on some A-list media outlets and landed her tons of dates -- but no man of her dreams. Now, she's taking a little sabb... read more »
A couple of months ago, I was in the wedding party for one of my best friends, Melissa. We've been close for about five years, so I was excited and looking forward to the event. While taking part in the weekend's festivities, I met her cousin, Jeremy, who caught my attention instantly. He has boyish good looks, he was witty, made me laugh and seemed to have it together. And, I was sprung and looked for any opportunity to find chemistry between us. Anyway, we clicked at the wedding, ended up grabbing a... read more »
Just recently, I received a "Save the Date" from my friend Maria. It was one of those mini CD things that when you popped into a computer was a photo montage of her and her fiance all over the world, with Peter Gabriel's "In Your Eyes," playing in the background. I watched it a few times, smiling, a little nauseous, but also happy for them. This is one example of the ongoing reality in my life -- more and more of my closest friends are finding long-term mates. For them, their planning now involves anot... read more »
So, my ever rockin' friend and colleague, Laurie, took some advice provided by HurricanesFan into further consideration, sending me the following note just last night:...Hurricanes does make some good points, esp about communication. You miss a lot over the phone. Plus, I feel like you have to be in constant communication in order to maintain trust. Otherwise, your mind starts going to all these crazy places and you constantly question his intentions. His post gave me good insight into what's likely goin... read more »
Imagine meeting a man that's cute, sweet, smart, has his life in order, and just lifts you off your feet from the first meeting. Soon, you're traveling together, spending time with each other's loved ones, and making plans that maybe -- just maybe -- means that you're in it for the long-term. But suddenly, the game changes and the thrilling ride just seems to level out, leaving you to wonder when and why things took such an unexpected turn. It's that kind of situation that Laurie, a colleague and frie... read more »
I was laying low late last night when one of my best childhood friends, Renee, asked me whether I knew if our mutual friend, Julian, was engaged to be married. I was immediately surprised, and took to hopping on the ever popular Facebook to find out. Immediately, I noticed there were tons of messages on his Wall from his frat brothers extending their well wishes... And then there was no mistaking he'd taken the plunge, which left me dumbfounded.Don't misunderstand -- I'm totally happy for him. How can I ... read more »
