HOW BAD WAS IT?It’s hard for me to know!PREVIOUS: Direct AbusersREVIEW posts: “Feeling Sorry For - Healthy vs Unhealthy” Nov 2010REMINDER: See ACRONYM Page for abbrev. VICTIMs or NOT? (V = victim , P = Perpetrator / abuser) ACoAs have tendency to get most things backward: • Sanity tells us the TRUTH : Most of us did go thru a terribly painful childhood - were very real Victims of our home, neighborhood, school, religion, playground. We had no choice very few options. We were Vs then, but we don’t have... read more »
I’M SO CONFUSED!Are they good, bad or evil?Previous: Being in DenialReview series of posts: “Noticing painful Events” .... Dec 2010DELIBERATE Abuse or NOT?Most ACoAs assume that if our parents / lovers... don’t mean to hurt us, /or can’t help themselves because of their damage, then their behavior can be overlooked. We don’t have to call them on it, don’t have to ‘protect’ ourselves we should never get upset with them. After all “it’s not their fault”. This is a self-destructive attitude - takes a toll... read more »
